I’m writing this post in office. It’s 1:30am. I came to office at 2:30pm – that’s 11 hours! I’m waiting for someone’s very unproductive meeting to be over so I can have another very unproductive meeting with them on a Friday night. Here’s what’s bothering me – If I had 5 minutes with the person, I’d finish my shit and they could carry on with their “I don’t have a life” meeting.
Anyway, I was just surfing (what ever the internet policy of my organization allows me to) & I stumbled upon the blog of a person who is the name sake of a very good friend. It’s strange, just by the choice of words and language how I could have very easily thought this girl (whose blog I was reading) was my friend. But obviously from the contents I figured this was just somebody else with a very strange likeness to someone I know. (I’ve just proof read this paragraph and realized how much easier it would have been if I’d just used names).
The post that I read was about some girl who was with her in college and would be physically and verbally abused by some guy who she stuck with for 3 years. It brought back to me a very intense conversation that Vikram, Tarun and I once had about how women tend to hang on to men that treat them like shit. I haven’t really thought about that conversation after that time – but suddenly I realize I do know girls that would fit this. I’m not generalizing here – please note.
The question is, why do girls stick with men who treat them badly? I think what really happens is that these men are obviously real players – who first make the girl fall for them head over heals. Once they know the girl loves them, a certain amount of reverse psychology sets in. Since these guys fool around a lot – they somehow end up believing that the woman is doing the same. Then comes the thrashing (read physical abuse). But it’s already too late for the girl ‘cause she’s in love with this guy.
What happens next is even worse. The girl finally musters up the courage to walk out on this guy, leaving him feeling ever so worse about himself. (I’ve heard a lot of these men have small things – wonder if that overworks the aggressive hormone. I’ll never know!). She finds a nice guy that loves her and treats her well. But for some reason this woman can’t really adjust to this anymore (read gets bored) and she leaves him too. This guy now turns into the first guy – who will hereafter be abusive in some way or another.
So well, this goes on. It’s like evolution happening 64X. Soon we’ll have a whole load of women beaters and men haters and we’ll all be unhappy.
It’s now 3:30am. I left for a while to finally get my 15 minutes. Very unproductive (in business not biology terms) 15 minutes.
There’s a way out of all this. Women should accept the beating gracefully!
P.S. I know how much flak I’m about to receive for that last statement. TRY SAYING IT TO MY FACE WOMAN! (Knuckles cracked, Sleeves pulled up & taking the Kung-fu kick stance)
All you women, you know I didn’t mean it. It’s just random rambling. 4:02am (Yawn).